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There was never a time when men didn't have affairs.
It takes two to tango!
Nor did I imply there was. I was talking of consequences when they came to light (doubly so when they materially impact one’s company and national security).
There was never a time when it wasn't deeply frowned upon either, because having an affair is not the norm.
Read Anna Karenina sometime. Tolstoy shows both the aspect of a society in which rich men having affairs was considered the norm, and the destructive effect it has on people. (And also the double standard by which women were judged much more harshly than men for having affairs). And he also, by comparing the two main relationships in the book (Vronsky's affair with Anna, and Levin's marriage to Kitty), said "It doesn't have to be this way, you can have healthy relationships if you just reject society's advice to have affairs and instead stay faithful to your wife".

I didn't like the book when I first read it (mostly because I seriously dislike Anna, and the book naturally spends a lot of time being told from her POV), but in retrospect, it's brilliant. Tolstoy has, without a single bit of moralizing, presented one of the best arguments I've seen in literature for being faithful to one's spouse and not engaging in affairs.

P.S. I should add that I don't think Tolstoy was inventing the "rich men having affairs was considered normal" aspect for the purpose of the book. I think that was what Russian society was really like at the time, and he took that aspect of society and wrote a book criticizing it, highlighting the negative effects that that attitude would have on people.

I think that "rich men having affairs" has been considered normal for most of human history. Of course, in China there were official (and unofficial) concubines, and many cultures have accepted and endorsed polygamy.

In South Africa, men marrying multiple wives is still accepted as long as they are "traditional". https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polygamy_in_South_Africa.

Most Muslim-majority countries currently allow polygamy. https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/countries...

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I think most of human history would want to have a word with you...

Now whether it was directly admitted to is a different thing, versus a nudge nudge wink wink thing....cue British aristocracy.

We might all have our personal views on whether it's right or wrong. Or whether it's sinful, etc. But that's orthogonal to reality.

I mean... seriously, look at literature, look at music... Heck, read the Bible? It's been a feature of all of recorded human history, that people will stray. We are human as they say...

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Do you really think it was never the norm for rich men to have affairs? That's a very optimistic view of history, I wish I shared it.
I think it's more accurate to raise an eyebrow at the idea of powerful people not habitually having affairs (historically, most of which have been men in modern times).

Because power is an ability to do what one wants, and a lot of people want sex.

The person I responded to said "men," not "rich men." You're arguing a point that neither of us is arguing. It is perhaps historically interesting that rich people have been boning down since time immemorial, but I'd counter with the fact that rich people have also faced consequences – sometimes even lethal ones – for their affairs since time immemorial too. Having an affair is and has always been deeply frowned upon by human society as a whole, and society has always reacted by shaming the people who've been caught doing it.