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amarcheschi | on: Trump wins presidency for second time
I wonder what they perceive as "acting like man". I'm a 22yo guy and living in a sketchy area in italy I always have a friend who's a woman living near me that asks to walk her at home to feel more safe. That's something very manly indeed, and God if it's nice. Hell, one day I drove some burlesque performers home and when I saw one of them was scared I proposed to come at the door of her stay if she would have felt safer with me. That's again quite good for my perception of being a decent man, doing something that's tipically relegated to men.

I wonder what discrimination they face day to day, whether it is phisical or online

Foreignborn | parent | next
There are so many layers to your comment.

Aren’t you now asking yourself, “who are they scared of?”

Let the answer sink in.

amarcheschi | root | parent
I know what women are scared of in that area, God damn I'm autistic but not stupid. I'm slightly on the edge as well, that's understandable. What I'm trying to grasp, is how men perceive they're being discriminated against. If you feel like you're being discriminated because women are scared of men at night in a bad lit sketchy area, that's not discrimination, that's just survival instinct, and I have it too, be it some guy walking his dog on a leash or a woman in her fifties walking alone
throwaway665345 | root | parent
>What I'm trying to grasp, is how men perceive they're being discriminated against

For example, there are scholarships and conferences specifically for women, even in spite of college numbers now drastically already favoring women.

I feel as though as a white male I am very heavily discriminated against in the academic job market. I'm certain that if I had a vagina, and all else were equal, I would have 1000x the job prospects in academia. No, I can't prove this, but I know a lot of other men feel the same way.

I created this throwaway account to answer your question because I'm afraid of potential future employers looking at my posting history and seeing the above comment, which I think would instantly disqualify me from the majority of US academic positions.

amarcheschi | root | parent
I showed this to a friend doing a PhD - in italy tho - and she laughed and shrugged saying that she's in academia not because she has a vagina but because she had the right recommendations from the right people

I think the academia world is broken not in the way you think it is

Although not in the US, she says that when doing something in the academia world being a man or a woman makes no difference (here)

skinkestek | parent
> I wonder what they perceive as "acting like man".

As late as yesterday a woman I need to listen to had opinions on something as basic as how men are supposed to pee, telling that how most men feel comfortable peeing is wrong.

That is just one.

But I think it goes all the way from kindergarten up in some places.

amarcheschi | root | parent | next
All the opinions I've ever heard on how to do something we're mostly said by another men. I feel truly sorry for the men that have to endure this shit, many more times I was deemed gay (jokingly, of course, but still it happened) because I dressed with silk clothes or eclectic outfits (that aren't even so electing) or the way I behaved, and all this was said by friend who were guys as me (the type of guys that would joke about gays and trans and say they have no issues with them but then have to argue about the bathroom trans people use), yet it's silly to berate the entire man-slice of society for this. Stupid people are everywhere
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