That's fair. It is perfectly reasonable to want customizability if control is what you are after. I remember the days fondly where I was running postfix and dovecot on bare metal.
Nowadays my interests have skewed towards being able to have groupware features without much maintenance so groupware in a box suits my needs just fine. The learning curve to doing serious customization with a large FOSS groupware project might be a bit longer but that is offset by other factors.
Yeah I definitely get less done on OpenBSD, but I have more fun doing it, and fortunately in my position where that works for me. If I were providing a service to others instead of just myself I'd have to rethink my stack.