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p_j_w | on: Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang's letter to staff about affair
> It's not going to ruin his life.

It might if he loves his wife.

m10i | parent | next
Sometimes, it's the humiliation that comes from the public finding out and putting a spotlight on it that is the kicker; not the random side piece(s) (ex: Bill & Melinda Gates).

I agree, though.

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edit: Funny enough, there's a House of Cards scene that goes over this exact scenario. Francis is sleeping with Zoe the reporter (they're both using each other for the perks/their own agendas). When Claire finds out, her response is something like "you know you must not embarrass me (publicly) with this", which Francis already knew because he would never do that to Claire... she doesn't say those exact words, but that was the vibe.

DANmode | root | parent
> "The reporter? ... What does she offer us?"
reenorap | parent
If he loved his wife he wouldn't have cheated on her, and then humiliated her and his children in front of the entire world.
MaxHoppersGhost | root | parent | next
Humans are complex creatures. Plenty of men and women who have loving families and genuinely love their spouses cheat on them and destroy their lives/families. It just takes a moment of weakness. Stay vigilant.
v3ss0n | root | parent | next
Love and sexual attraction is totally different thing. As long as you get married Male usually lose interest and sexual attraction on female and want to try new things. That happens to me too and its like both biological and mental.
thepasch | root | parent | next
A "moment of weakness" leads to a one-night stand, not to however long a fling needs to be to be dubbed an "extramarital affair."
tudelo | root | parent | next
It's not really a moment when the moment is stretched over months and years, but yes we are all human and all make mistakes. That does not absolve us of the consequences.
pprotas | root | parent
Way to minimize cheating. Describing it as a “moment of weakness” makes it sounds like it’s a minute of lapse of judgement, meanwhile we’re talking about pre-mediated, long-term cheating.
happytoexplain | root | parent | next
I have zero sympathy for this guy, generally speaking. But this is one of those very few things where what you have said is the socially "correct" thing, and actually is probably healthy to believe, but is factually wrong.

Lamentably, people don't have cartoon emotions. Life would be so much easier if they did.

m10i | root | parent
That is not an automatic fact. Humans are very emotionally complex creatures. And Jensen didn't call his secretary and say "can you pencil in 'humiliating my wife and kids around 4PM'? You can? Great, thanks".
reenorap | root | parent | next
He has full agency over his actions, so yes, it's an automatic fact. He knew what he was doing and he knew what the effects would be on his wife. He knew what would happen when this came out. If you're saying he DIDN'T know what would happen, then you're saying he's extremely stupid. I haven't seen any evidence that he is even a little bit stupid.

Are you saying this was an accident and he didn't have control over himself?

If he doesn't have control over himself and he isn't accountable for his actions, then how does that factor into him being the CEO of the most important globally strategic company in the world? Are you saying that he is capable of making actions that he isn't in full control over? Does Nvidia need to have a CEO that doesn't accidentally make mistakes like potentially giving secret information to Chinese spies?

happytoexplain | root | parent | next
This seems like an emotionally compromised perspective (which is very, very normal, and I am not insulting you).

It is, of course, not an automatic fact. The context here is emotions, so it makes no sense to point only to agency as proof of an emotional "fact". Such a thing doesn't even exist.

kridsdale1 | root | parent | next
People, especially men, are not robots.
4ggr0 | root | parent
> especially men

meaning that women are more likely to be robots? wasn't aware of this, gotta try doing turing tests on women around me.

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ryanjshaw | root | parent | next
This is not complicated if you define “love” as “wouldn’t cheat”. Which plenty of people do.
happytoexplain | root | parent
Well, yes, nothing is complicated if one already agrees with their audience.
crossroadsguy | root | parent
Oh, with this “open letter” he literally did just that.