> There is no simplistic friend/enemy, notice how you are using those words not me.
Make up your mind.
> over the past 10 years gotten bolder in state sponsored cyberattacks, flying satellites/balloons over the US, market flooding, taking HK early, state sponsored corporate espionage.
You say this all as if the US were not doing much the same in reverse. The NSA has a yearly budget in the tens of billions of dollars, and part of its mission is offensive cyber operations. The US has dozens of satellites overflying China at any given moment (I don't even know if the Chinese balloon was intentional - in the end, it actually seemed as if China had simply lost control of the balloon). The US has military bases all over China's periphery, which pose a serious military threat to mainland China. The US has imposed broad sanctions intended to cripple China's entire high-tech sector, which is a fundamental attack on China's goal of becoming an economically developed country with a high standard of living.
By any objective assessment, the US is much more aggressive in its attitude towards China than vice versa. The type of thinking you're engaging in, which paints China as an enemy with which mutually beneficial relations are impossible, will lead to ever more antagonism and eventual conflict, if not curtailed.