Same thing.
It is not, and we are going to continue facing frustration and defeat until people like you learn to accept and understand this.
Putting it simply: no candidate is owed a vote. Declining to cast a ballot doesn't favor any candidate. It is true neutral.
It's really not neutral though in the outcome. It's as if a lever were going to be pulled to kill a bunch of people unless you pull on it the other way; and then you claim no responsibility for not pulling on the lever because merely "stopping the killing" wasn't a _positive enough_ outcome.
When people are going to do bad things, and you can make things a lot less bad for a little effort, you have a responsibility to do that.
Like, wouldn't you say that the people who didn't vote during Hitler's election should have voted for the opponent, no matter how unexciting their policies were?